When do you feel to meet next?
My coach asked me this question years ago. English wasn’t his first language, so I assumed he meant “want” or “think.” I pulled out my calendar, scanning for openings.
“That’s wonderful,” he said. “Is that when you feel to meet next?”
I sat there confused. Feel? About a calendar?
He waited. I closed my eyes, tried to sense something—anything—about timing. Eventually a subtle, almost imperceptible alignment emerged. Not the Tuesday I’d chosen, but Thursday a week later. Not that time slot, but an hour earlier.
“I don’t want to meet then,” I told him. “It doesn’t fit my schedule. It doesn’t keep me on track with my goals. But if you’re asking when I feel to meet, that’s it.”
We met when I felt to. The timing was impeccable—I wouldn’t have been ready a week earlier. Something had shifted in that extra week that made our conversation land differently.
Then I decided to test this “feeling” approach with an in-person meeting in Tiburon—an hour away if traffic cooperated, two and a half if it didn’t.
Morning of, I was stressed about timing. Then I remembered: When do I feel to leave?
I got ready, sat at my desk, and waited for that subtle sense. Kept working. Waiting. Then—there it was. That alignment feeling. Time to go.
I got in my car. The gas light came on immediately. Had to stop for fuel, which should’ve destroyed my timing.
I drove the corridor that could take anywhere from smooth sailing to complete gridlock. No GPS, just following that feeling of flow.
Pulled into the Tiburon parking lot. The dashboard clock clicked to my meeting time exactly as I turned off the engine.
Since then, I’ve experimented with feeling questions everywhere. What do I feel to wear? Who do I feel to call? Which coffee shop feels right?
At Bucknell University last month, an attendee tested this immediately after my workshop. Meeting coming up, time was tight. Logic said grab coffee from the campus cart. But she felt drawn to the popular café downtown—the busy one.
She walked in. The barista looked up, waved her forward past the line, took her order instantly. She arrived at her meeting perfectly on time, coffee in hand, mind blown.
This holiday season, while everyone’s drowning in logistics and lists, try this: Stop asking what you think you should do. Start asking what you feel to do.
When do you feel to leave for the airport? Which gift feels right? Who do you feel to visit first?
Your brain optimizes for perceived efficiency—but it’s only working with the data it can see. Your intuition optimizes for flow—it’s tapped into patterns your conscious mind can’t access.
The Maverick truth: In our hyper-scheduled world, we’ve forgotten that timing isn’t just about clocks. It’s about alignment. And alignment doesn’t live in your calendar—it lives in your body.
Ready to navigate the holidays on a different frequency?
Ask feeling questions. Watch the universe reorganize around you. 🌊